If you have been a mom for a minute, you have experienced mom burn out. I’m talking complete exhaustion.. the days start to blur and your patience gets very thin. At least that’s what mom burn out looks like for me.

It starts out like any other day, but yet it’s not like any other day. Because today I wake up completely done.. dreaming of a life without kids. Believe me, I love my children and I have been a mom for almost 11 years but Y’All my kids are exhausting little tiny mini versions of me and it’s not cute sometimes.

God has a funny sense of humor doesn’t He. See I am not talking about depression or post postpartum depression because that is a whole different conversation and if mom burn out happens a lot please talk to someone… You don’t have to go through that alone, I know in today’s society we are told to be strong and we fell guilty opening up about those type of thoughts, but it’s real and we shouldn’t. So if you need someone to talk to I am here.

Now that I got that out of the way, let’s talk about mom burn out.. I have three boys and honestly I never thought it to be true, but there are many stages of mom burn out. See you have the newborn mom burn out stage, which goes a little like this.. You give birth to this tiny human who needs you… ALL THE TIME.. add breast feeding and you soon start to feel like this cow.. From son up to son down… and all those middle of the night feedings..

I LOVE MY SLEEP, I NEED MY SLEEP… so the newborn mom burn out is REAL and it is HARD. You take this baby whom needs you all the time and it doesn’t matter if it’s your first or last, it’s still EQUALLY hard.. and the sleepless nights turn into cranky mornings and let’s just say intimacy goes out the window in this phase, well for me it did…

Then there is the toddler mom burn out phase… now the breast feeding phase is over but toddler mom phase has begun and you spend all day listening to your “boss” a.k.a “ME do it” toddler phase… around this time, mom guilt starts getting real… not to mention mom competition comes in and Y’All that just speeds up mom burn out…

Then there is the older kid who thinks they are a teenager phase.. I am currently getting into that and mom burn out is REAL and DRAINING in so many ways…

We read about how kids can make or break a relationship and I used to hate that saying but I understand it now.. No matter how much you love that child they are still a pain! And it will cause so many fights between you and your husband.. see this phase isn’t about getting completely tired or feeling like a cow.. this phase is draining. You are now working on their hearts and teaching them right from wrong and that is draining. You love that child with all your heart and you believe in them but no matter what you have to sit there and let them be.. let them learn things the hard way.. you hold them when their heart breaks and you have to discipline them when your heart breaks… that is when you and your spouse start to see things differently and so you pull back a little from your spouse. Because you are just tired…

For a while it felt like I was just surviving in motherhood, the tv was the babysitter more than I liked to admit it. I just started to just go through the motions of motherhood.. wasn’t really enjoying being a mom. Which is something all I could ever imagine being, since I was little. And yes, it didn’t help that my marriage was on the rocks.. but I’ve learned the importance of getting help, because I didn’t.. Because I put that smile on my face everyday and stuffed those emotions way deep down. And my marriage took a hit because it. SO each week.. I really want to share blogs or videos or just a quote that spoke to my heart.

Because mom burn out is real. And is something that needs to be shared.. and let the conversations start. It’s not something we shouldn’t be ashamed about, it doesn’t mean we don’t love our children in fact it means we do love them. We give them our hearts and it’s tiring but with God and connection we can let our hair down and breathe. We can be okay.

This week it’s Her Faith Foundations… she is a podcaster who is sharing her faith while inspiring women to live a full life as God intended. She talks about mom burn out, but also gives great tips on how to deal with it. She mentions in her episode this Master List and it is such a great idea, it’s more than just a list. It’s a one day at a time list. A list that takes you in the direction of healing. Of giving yourself grace. See in this master list she mentions your top 3, that is what it takes to go from surviving to thriving.. Baby steps… Give it a listen & a five star on Itunes to help spread her podcast because more woman need to hear it.